Am I too ugly to be loved? | [ PART 2 ]


foodies' appendix.png

We often look on the outside of ourselves to get validation and opinions of others. But, the thing is, we don’t need others to tell us we are beautiful – it is our duty to know that we are beautiful within. We can’t get the validation from someone is pursuing you or comparing yourself to other people in society, because at the end of the day – society view is always changing.

” society view of beauty is always changing ”

People always give the power away ( including myself)  of how they feel by external factors, but we have to keep the power and it needs to come from within. One thing I struggled with as a younger teen was the fact that not everyone would think you are ‘beautiful’ because of this and that, this was a constant factor of my self-esteem, you would never catch me calling myself beautiful, or when I did get compliments, I would cringe and change the subject.

I AM BEAUTIFUL – because I say so, not because social media tells me so, or tom, dick and harry, NO! I am beautiful because of who I am and what I think about myself.

Sometimes, I feel like we are so dissatisfied with ourselves, that it begins to show within our actions, face, and character.   The way we walk around, our facial expressions begin to change < not giving off a good vibe >  | In this sense perhaps it’s not the way we look, but the vibe we tend to bring out that may not be attractive. 

Copy of foodies' appendix

What I realise is, people, can see confidence from a mile away, someone who is secure about who they are – confidence generally shines from within.

I have come to the conclusion that it is not all about looks that individuals base their decisions on, maybe, just maybe, its to do with your insecurities, some people may not want to take on that baggage plus you and your insecurities because it may damage you further and your relationship!

So if you haven’t read my previous post on Pain and bruises // Self-reflection, one of the things I said is really useful for working on your character and helps with insecurities is self-reflecting.

Let’s just be mindful for a minute, if you are going into a relationship looking to get validation or fill a void and feel like in order to feel a sense of self-worth,  please DON’T !!!! That’s a huge error! – You are just going to feel more lonely and disappointed than ever before because you put your faith in that person to feel a void or for validation.

Love yourself, see the way God sees you. Don’t compare yourself to the standards of the world < although it may be difficult > Don’t look externally for affirmation because it will only get worse.

you are beautiful: you are handsome xx

love Ness,



One thought on “Am I too ugly to be loved? | [ PART 2 ]

  1. A lot of truth in this! I think that when you know who you are in Christ, expectation in society does not matter.

    We are in the world but not of the world.

    Instead of seeking vadilation from man, seek it from the creator.

    What does it profit a man to gain the world and lose his soul?

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s