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Hey fambam,

Just to clarify I will be back, but I’m on the last leg of my University journey and I need to stay focus and enjoy it while it last.

I won’t lie to you all, I’m beyond stressed, tired and going through all sorts of emotions… but I’ll get through it.

All I ask for is your prayers x

To all the final year students, you can do it!

Love,

Ness xx

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Rising | The sunset reflection

” A sunset is the sun’s fiery kiss to the night.”

Sunsets have always been my thing. I love it, the different colours blending together and the mood it brings, it’s just therapeutic in my opinion.

Seeing the sunset gives a constant beautiful reminder to appreciate every single blessing day. The sunset gives an every day opportunity to reflect on: life, accomplishment, etc while the sun fades away, how therapeutic can it get?

During my time in el español, I was on the balcony of my hotel and saw the sunset and was like wow, isn’t this stunning, gorgeous, sesssssssxxxxyyyyy . I wanted to actually go to the beach to soak it in, but I got it from my balcony instead just in case I missed it lol.

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SOMETHING NEW | For this week, lets set a photo challenge, share your favorite moments of a sunrise or a sunset ( of your choice). If you’re an early bird that catches the worm, try to capture what the sunrise means to you, through pictures. Is it a symbol of hope? A reminder to get going?

For night timers, share a snapshot of the day coming to an end [ the sunset ]. Show off the vibrant colors of the sunset and the peaceful calmness. Get creative and show the sun in all of her fiery glory through your lens [eyes].

  • When you take a picture, email me and I will feature you in an upcoming blog post with your creative artwork 🙂
  • The winner will receieve a £10 Amazon e-gift voucher – get snapping 🙂

until next time, I bid you adieu xx

love,

Ness xo

[ 5 apps ] – you should try out on your phone

Welcome back lovelies, hope you’re having an amazing week so far xx

Useful apps always come in good handy !! Today, I talk about 5 USEFUL APPS, that you should have on your phone.

Drum rolls, please…

//  BABYLON 

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” TALK TO A DOCTOR WHEN YOU NEED TO

My bro bro introduced me to this app because I didn’t want to see the GP but this app came in good use. Hand-picked doctors, supported by cutting-edge technology. You can book an appointment at any time of day or night. No more having to call when the surgery opens and hitting redial. Not sure whether you need to see a doctor? Get instant health advice and recommendations on what to do next – all in less than 60 seconds.

//  FLO 

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” A WOMAN’S ONE-STOP APP FOR A LIFETIME ” 

The first period tracker & ovulation calculator that uses artificial intelligence for the most accurate menstrual cycle predictions.

For my ladies, and men as well, to be honest, < I saw a review from a male, who downloaded this app who as well as for his significant other and found it so useful and informative > !

Ladies, this app is amazing, helps track down your menstrual cycle, when you are due, any changes, community support- anything you need to know, helps you discover your body, etc.

//  FEVER 

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” DISCOVER THE BEST EVENTS IN YOUR CITY ”

For all my ladies and gents this app is useful to get inspired and find out about what your city has to offer. All the way from music festivals and gigs, to theatre, fashion, restaurants, and the most exciting pop-ups.

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There are some free gems on this app 😀

//  LUCKYTRIP

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” SET YOUR BUDGET – LET THE BUTTON DECIDE”

This app is for the lovelies who love going on holidays, or just want a quick get-a-away, set your budget and the app will show you, somewhere to go, somewhere to stay and something to make you happy :))

// OPENTABLE

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” YOUR PERFECT DINING EXPERIENCE IN JUST A FEW TABS” 

I have used OpenTable a couple of times to book and it is fairly easy to use,  I must say 🙂 !!. You get to discover great dining experiences and make free restaurant reservations at more than 43,000 restaurants around the world. OpenTable is the perfect travel app to dine like a local, find restaurants by location, cuisine and more plus get personalized recommendations based on your preferences.

If you do download any of these apps, let me know in the comment section or via email what you downloaded and how you are finding the app xx

Till Next Wednesday, I bid you adieu xx

Love,

Ness,

xo

Am I too ugly to be loved? | [ PART 2 ]

 

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We often look on the outside of ourselves to get validation and opinions of others. But, the thing is, we don’t need others to tell us we are beautiful – it is our duty to know that we are beautiful within. We can’t get the validation from someone is pursuing you or comparing yourself to other people in society, because at the end of the day – society view is always changing.

” society view of beauty is always changing ”

People always give the power away ( including myself)  of how they feel by external factors, but we have to keep the power and it needs to come from within. One thing I struggled with as a younger teen was the fact that not everyone would think you are ‘beautiful’ because of this and that, this was a constant factor of my self-esteem, you would never catch me calling myself beautiful, or when I did get compliments, I would cringe and change the subject.


I AM BEAUTIFUL – because I say so, not because social media tells me so, or tom, dick and harry, NO! I am beautiful because of who I am and what I think about myself.

Sometimes, I feel like we are so dissatisfied with ourselves, that it begins to show within our actions, face, and character.   The way we walk around, our facial expressions begin to change < not giving off a good vibe >  | In this sense perhaps it’s not the way we look, but the vibe we tend to bring out that may not be attractive. 

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What I realise is, people, can see confidence from a mile away, someone who is secure about who they are – confidence generally shines from within.

I have come to the conclusion that it is not all about looks that individuals base their decisions on, maybe, just maybe, its to do with your insecurities, some people may not want to take on that baggage plus you and your insecurities because it may damage you further and your relationship!

So if you haven’t read my previous post on Pain and bruises // Self-reflection, one of the things I said is really useful for working on your character and helps with insecurities is self-reflecting.


Let’s just be mindful for a minute, if you are going into a relationship looking to get validation or fill a void and feel like in order to feel a sense of self-worth,  please DON’T !!!! That’s a huge error! – You are just going to feel more lonely and disappointed than ever before because you put your faith in that person to feel a void or for validation.

Love yourself, see the way God sees you. Don’t compare yourself to the standards of the world < although it may be difficult > Don’t look externally for affirmation because it will only get worse.

you are beautiful: you are handsome xx

love Ness,

xo

9 +1 Side Hustles You Can Start [ASAP] PART 2

9 +1 Side Hustles You Can Start  [ASAP] PART 2

PART 2 – Side hustles 

The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don’t give up.” 

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Try Amazon Affiliates. Amazon Affiliates is my favorite. Link it up to your blog and you’ll earn money every time someone clicks on one of your links and purchases anything on Amazon within 24 hours.

Become a coach. After IT, coaching is the second-fastest growing profession in the world. Right now, there’s huge demand for all kinds of coaches, from career coaches to activities coaches. If you’re an expert in something, all you need is a Skype account. Helping people and getting paid in the process? Sign me right up!!

Sell physical products. If you love illustrating or graphic design, you can sell your creations without any of the production costs. Simply upload your designs and virtually create iPhone cases, cushions and more via sites like CafePress.

Review resumes. This is not a scam !!!: You can literally make money from helping strangers or your fellow ‘sister and bros’ update their cvs and cover letters. Search for jobs on platforms including Indeed and Upwork as well as professional resume writing companies.

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Thrift and eBay.  While researching a lot of money can be made through thrifting and through eBay and Amazon, for example,Chinedu ‘Ken’ Emechebe, 37, started selling phone accessories from his bedroom in 2008 – and now makes £1.5m per month – what a wow!  Pro tip < from what I have seen>: it’s all about the photography and quality.

Use your voice. Literally. If you have an awesome voice or a unique voice and open to pretty much have a distinctive tone or accent. Voices can help. < Pro tip a voice showreel comes in handy >

Try out tutoring. If education is your thing, online tutoring is a great earner. You can find people looking for help with their homework on mytutor.

Teach English. There’s huge demand for native English speakers to Skype with pupils in different parts of Africa, Asia and beyond. Remote.co and Preply often post English teaching jobs.

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Go mystery shopping. Anyone who has worked in retail will know all about mystery shopping. Monster is a good website to help find some mystery shopper jobs. Earning money to eat out? You’ll be living the dream.

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Complete online surveys. Everyone has an opinion. Share yours and get paid for it by signing up with Survey Junkie and Swagbucks.

Hope you enjoyed,

Love,

Ness x

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10 +1 Side Hustles You Can Start [ASAP] PART 1

 ”Millennials are lazy” – unkown

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Newspapers and some older generations often call us millennials LAZY!  I don’t believe that’s true! I feel like there are a handful of people who are generally lazy lazzzzy and don’t want to do anything! However, there is a lot of millennials who are doing great things, being entrepreneurs,  being on top on their 9-5 jobs – and having side hustles.

I believe there is room for everyone to win, <not just watching people struggle> knowledge is power! So, where does one get started on up with a side hustle?

Here is 10+1 side hustles.. all you really need is motivation to get started, a laptop or phone and wifi :).

Work as a freelancer. Companies all over the world are looking for logos, websites, apps and more, right now. You could sign up for freelance job alerts from creative platforms like People Per Hour and Upwork.

Sell ad space on your blog. If you are a blogger like myself, selling ad space on your blog could bring you in some mula.  Bloggers with a growing audience can use their traffic with Google Adsense

Be a virtual assistant. No matter where you are, you can get paid to do other people’s admin without having to go to the office, you can work in the comfort your own house. Amazeballs! Check out sites like www.fiverr.com and search virtual assistant for listings! There are other websites as well that are looking for a virtual assistant.

House sit.  House sitting it quite easy, but do it through a trusted website, your job is to basically sit in the house while they are away, turn the lights on and off at appropriate times, make sure the electricity is still ongoing etc. Sounds pretty easy, no? Head to www.trustedhousesitters.com to search for job listings and also check out https://brokeinlondon.com/house-sitting-london/

Launch an Etsy shop. Craft enthusiasts are making money on Etsy, and with companies like Shipstation, shipping stuff out is so much easier than it used to be.

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Take care of some kids. www.childcare.co.uk is a babysitting website to connect you with entire communities of families of childcare. You can create a profile, determine your hours, and get paid all through the app.

Launch an online course. Demand for e-learning courses is growing quickly. If you’ve got a skill to share, there’s a high chance people will pay for it. Check out e-learning platform Udemy. < my online course is coming soon 🙂 >

Write an eBook. Whether you want to ghostwrite for someone else or pen your own title, eBooks are worth exploring if you love to write. Upwork,and The Write Life all post eBook jobs on the regular.

Walk a dog. Arguably the most fun side hustle on the list, on-demand dog walking websites like www.pawshake.co.uk! < I’m scared of dogs, but I want a dog :/ >

 Spend time on Fiverr. This is kind of linked to being a virtual assistant – but if you have talent in photoshop, proofreading etc.. why not turn your time into cash?  Fiverr.

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Sell your stock photos. If you are into taking photos or love it, or your Instagram game is popping. Why not start selling your work to websites such as.. Shutterstock and Dreamstime?

stay tuned for part 2 !

Love,

Ness, x

Pain and bruises // self-reflection

self-reflection is like looking into a mirror and describing what you see

(listen with sound x )

Last year, the last couple of months of 2017 taught me so much about myself, the good, the bad and the ugly!

I’ve always been an advocate for self-reflection, but I’ve been so caught up preaching it instead of taking the time out to reflect on myself.

While reflecting, I could notice certain life events has affected me mentally, spiritually, emotionally; the hurt, the pain.


P.S. SELF REFLECTING WAS REALLY HARD FOR ME:

Because the thing with me is, I always put myself down and never believe in myself, and its gotten to the point where I’m so used to putting myself down, its become apart of who I am.

While reflecting there were a few questions I asked my self…

Strengths 

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What are my strengths?  lol! I won’t lie, it took me a day or two to think of some strengths because I’m always putting myself down, due to insecurities etc.I generally had to ask a couple of friends, what they think my strengths are…

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Lmao at “meet deadlines” is this a CV? Love ya xxx

I realised, my strengths should come naturally, something that is authentic to me, what is my unique strength(s)?

Weakness

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What are your weaknesses? Knowing my weakness is as equally as important as knowing my strengths so that I am able to work on my character and better myself as a person. One of my weakness is I am easily distracted… Going back a few years my school reports from primary – secondary have always had comments like ” Vanessa is easily distracted “.

Skills

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What are your skills? / What am I good at? Going back to my insecurities, I always believed for a long time that what content I produce or create was C.R.A.P! So I never understood why people will always comment, ness.. you’re so good at.. this is really good… can you teach me how to do this…I would put so much pressure on myself that I began to believe I was crap at doing stuff and ending up not creating at all. I began to hate editing, hate recording, hate taking pictures etc. But I’ve learned that I am skillful in editing, photography etc. I’ve also figured that even if I don’t believe in my craft, I can better myself through practicing even if I fail, I should try again and not just quit at the first hurdle < which I’ve done numerous times>

Problems 

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What problems occur? Everyone goes through situations at work or at home. Being in third year at Uni < praise God, because I’ve wanted to quit so many times >. I’m commuting for third year, which has its cons and pros. One of them is when I’m trying to do my assignments and my dear mother calls me to say… ” Ɛkɔm de me ” which means ” I’m hungry” …….. and I reply…  in my head, of course, lol ” I have 4 other siblings in this house unooooooo” lmao.

There tends to be ALOT of distractions at home, I’ll say I’m doing my assignment but end up watching different types of programs or episodes on Netflix for like 4 hours and then only do 5 minutes of work and close my laptop and congratulate myself lol!!

But, I realised that there was a lot of distractions and I didn’t want to go to the libraries in London. So I ended up going to my university library < remember I commute from London city > but going to my university library was easier as I had the resources I need ed and there were fewer distractions. I solved one of my distractions.

Being consistent is HARD !!!!!!!

Achievements

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What have you achieved? I’m not saying in your comfort zone you won’t achieve anything, sure you can. But for me, when I’ve left my comfort zone, I’ve achieved and appreciated my achievements more than ever. If you know me, you know I’m scared to leave my comfort zone. Starting a YouTube channel with a friend, I was nervous, I was scared of comments, what people would think of me, how would people take to me < ” > but starting a YouTube channel helped me with my confidence as well as starting a blog, helping out in a Christian networking event (being the videographer), applying and winning vouchers from TUI, being a radio prsenter , doing baby dedication photography and albums, becoming a media officer in second year of uni, going to events/ conferences by myself < which is scary at first lol > etc… if this was me 5 years ago, you wouldn’t catch me doing such things; but thank God for growth, courage, and friends who push you out of your comfort zone by force.

Happiness

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Are there things I’m unhappy with? Protecting your happiness at all cost is important. What makes me happy? What makes me unhappy? And how can I change these elements?

Solutions

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Find solutions. While reflecting I came up with solutions I never knew I could even come up with to make me a better person, to improve my character- realising what I can do to improve these situations, taking on responsibility when I’m in the wrong and learning to let go.

Although self-reflection can seem difficult at first, or even selfish or embarrassing, as it does not come naturally… it is very beneficial.

Self-reflecting helped me learn so much about myself that I didn’t know even existed because I never ever took the time to understand me. I doubt myself way too much. I learned to take in accountability in situations I find myself in, whether I’m in the wrong or right, I’ve learned to let go of situations. I’ve also learned being angry and being resentful is a complete waste of time, I’m only hurting myself. Self-reflecting helped me realise to stop seeing myself through the eyes of others or those who don’t value me. I know my worth and my worth in the Lord. I’m beginning to value myself and my life more and I’m also appreciating the blessings I receive and yet to receive :).

Self- reflection allows our minds and heart to process and think about your character. We begin to pay attention to the elements beneath the surface of our lives – questions we ask ourselves daily, feelings or frustration. When you make space for self-reflection, it’s when we discover an authentic connection to our souls and to God.

In case no one told you today : you’re beautiful, you’re loved, you’re needed,  you’re alive for a reason, you’re stronger than you think,  you’re going to get through this , I’m glad you’re alive, you are not alone don’t give up.

love,

Nessa ❤